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I'm in your boat just because you can controll yourself dosnt mean he can don't let him stay there your asking for trouble every pedo is different I love girls and wouldn't hurt them but my friend loves to rape so just because I can controll myself and not touch a girl dosnt mean he can

here's some advice. kill your brother. and then kill yourself.

well you should give your brother some slack and trust him but still check up on him when hes with the kids or late at night. also since you say you are controlled i wouldnt mind letting you babysit my kids and if your brother is incontrol like you say you are i would let him too. your not wrong for judging him because you know yourself but you dont know him so its fine to be shaky about him. some people that like other people to do things to there kids and some would want you to express your feelings with them to share.

OP here. I would love to give my brother a little more slack, if only I knew for sure that I could trust him not to do something too skeevy. I wouldn't have a problem letting a pedo watch a young family member if I knew for sure that the worst they would do was watch them get changed or help towel them off after a bath. I'm a pedo too, and I know that's the kind of stuff I might try to pull, and I don't mind paying it forward to my fellow pedos. In fact, knowing that someone else finds my kids attractive might even be taken as a compliment by me. But I just don't want to find out that the guy I said was ok to stay with and keep an eye on my newphews or my own future kids is busy licking their dicks when my back is turned. I just wish I knew for sure whether or not I could trust him, because I really would love to be able to tell my bro that he can stay with the kids unsupervised, but based on how I feel right now, I have to be a complete hypocrite and tell him, "I know I'm a pedo too, but I don't trust you to be with them alone." That sucks to say to anyone, but especially to your own brother, it's rough!

it's rare that you see someone on here like you. I say you both need to seek some professional help but even that, isn't fair. Many people who actually help out people who have issues in life will judge you for liking kids or getting a hard on for them.

You seem to to know the line from right and wrong and understand you have a problem and trying to deal with it. You brother on the other hand doesn't. Looking and touching are two completely different things. We all have looked at a hot 16 year old hell maybe even a little younger. It's just human instinct. It's a matter of what you do next. If you fantasize about it and get off on looking it is a bit sick but there is no actual harm done.

Now if you were to try and grab her rape her then you have some huge extreme trauma that the girl will have to live for the rest of her life. Also, lets say your brother does touch your nephews. Are you willing to take the chance that just because you feel bad the may grow up fucked up the rest of their life because of you?

Really the only way I see is being honest and telling him what is on your mind, as hard as it is. Not everyone who has issues like this is as level headed as you are. Most people in your situation dont even understand they have a problem at all and think it is perfectly fine.

That's a tough one, but I'm inclined to say give him a chance. But, I would do two things. 1. I'd give him a short, "I'm trusting you, don't make me regret it" speech. 2. And I'd make sure the kids have been taught or "your body, your choice" or what-have-you, which of course are good thing to educate kids about in any case.

yeah op you should do that i guess

i think you're an asshoel for juding your own brother that way if he says he wont to the lil boys then he probably wont but then again idk him

Heres my two cents worth... I think your getting off on all this.. The End

"Just not lest ye be judged but judge righteous judgment." IDK what it's like being molested but given your chronic 'condition' (which is fair given some people are gay and some have other issues) and touching a child in the past I recommend getting euthanized lest you let the Natural Man carnal mind take over and destroy you. I'm not one to be quick to judge but I must say there is a fine line between self-harm by fantasizing than action; has he ever crossed this line? I would err on the side of caution and not let your brother move in (because you don't know what he could do) and not let the hypocrisy get to you otherwise if you know all this and he screws up you will be held accountable in life and the hereafter.

0. Stop looking up skirts. It doesn't matter what the female's age is, that's never cool.

1. You're not hypocritcal. You may have your shit (mostly) together. That does not mean he does too.

2. Make sure your nephews know what to do if someone hurts them. Tell them that they should tell you (or someone else) if someone touches them in a private place. Tell them they will be believed. Tell them they won't be in trouble.

3. Tell your brother what you have told them. Tell that if something happens to those kids, he will be the first one everyone will look to. He won't get away with anything. Tell your brother as long as he keeps his hands to himself, everyone is cool. Tell him you are holding him to the same standard you are holding yourself to, and if you fuck up, he has permission to turn you in too.

4. I wish you the best of luck. Except for peeking upskirts, you're handling yourself well. Keep up the (mostly) good work.

your first two paragraphs are describing what i need to say about myself exactly.

About your brother, I would trust him.

you are not wrong not all people with those tendenicies have self control like u

I know how you feel. I have some pretty skeevy urges myself, and I have them under control. But I have family members who I know for a fact have acted on theirs, and others that I wouldn't trust not to.

I'd say just talk to your brother honestly. Tell him you know how hard it is to keep your shit under control. And ask him how under control he's got it. You know him, you know what it's like to be in his position. You should be able to tell if he's bullshitting you.

I seek help as both of you will dig yourself into a hole which will be very hard to climb out of.

I’ll kill you

NEVER just acsept that that is the way you think, its not normal. get profesional help. young girls do not need grown men looking or thinking of them like that you should push thoes feelings away and find something else to fantisize about that isnt fucked up. your wife is fucked up for acepting you in her life so is anyone else who has. Dont think that just cause you have self control it means its fine. ITS NOT. DO NOT HAVE KIDS.

Murder suicide for you and your brother are the only options. 

You are not alone. The sight of a puffy bald pre adolescence pussy is so compelling it makes my cum shoot ever more intense

its not being judged unfairly to limit exposure to potential threats. you are asking yourself {and others when considering your condition to rely on your self control when in the presence of individuals inherently weaker than you are. It is great that you understand that involving someones child in your fantasies would be a moral tragedy you may not recover from. you may want to consider how very deceased you'd be if i found you had involved my daughter as another consideration. I didn't say if i caught you around her because, like you said, that would be an injustice as well. But i would not knowingly leave my daughter with someone that was tempted as you are because i know how humanity works and while having ideals to strive for is an integral part of self development i would never rely on someones self control and willpower in relation to my kid. I would feel the same way around someone addicted to eating marshmallows keeping my favorite fluffy white treat. leaving it in their care and relying on their conviction that resisting temptation is possible is ludicrous. It is temptation, eventually it will win if given enough opportunity. Removing the temptation and risk is not prejudicial it is rational. I sympathize with with your attraction and believe biologically it is justified to be aroused by the most physiologically appropriate partner to bear the maximum number of children. obviously thats going to be younger than 18 because thats how biology works and saying its immoral to be attracted to young women is both blatantly ignoring human evolution and actual reality. So in my opinion if your brother is sexually attracted to young males he will eventually, and gradually, convince himself that engaging them in a fantasy of some kind isnt wrong. he's helping them explore their sexuality and hes a caring and experienced guide. whatever he comes up with will be reasonable to him and justify his actions, again to him. So if you are concerned about the boys prioritize their safety above the comfort of your brother and limit his access to them or just tell the boys that if he makes some kind of physical advance to tell you or do something other than obey some authority figure that may not have their best interests in mind. Good luck.