The way i found out they were banging eachother you mean? Well.. i will try to write this in a compact and readable way: Lets call my ex, "L". and the other dude "J".
L and i were members of a gun-shooting-range club. (In the netherlands you only can get a gun permit if you are a member of a club that is shooting with firearms on a shooting range. Out of nowhere, this couple walked in, and the dude of the couple was 'J'. They sat down at the table we were sitting at as well, and L and J started talking. Nothing weird there you would say, but the way they were talking to eachother, looked like they knew eachother already. Thinking this would be just me fucking with myself i said nothing and let it go. Some time later 'J' asked us both to come at their place to hang out, and we did. Again a strange vibe, but nothing that would be hard evidence for something going on... A few weeks later L suddenly said she had to sleep at home (she lived still with her parents at that time) because she needed to get up early the morning after. I picked her up the day after at her home, and her mom was eyeballing me in a strange way, and said: "i thought L was sle..." to be interrupted by L that we should go. Don't ask me why but before we got in my car, i hugged L, and smelled her hair, and it smelled just like how J his house smelled (wood-like, the dude lived in a run-down farmhouse, and burned candles for light and heat at night, giving a very distinct odor to his place). I told her that, and she waived it off that she tried a new shampoo or something). Another few weeks went by and in a weekend, when L was at my place, she suddenly said she had to go because a (girl)friend needed her because that girl had a hard time with her boyfriend who just got back from Afghanistan. I am not a controlling kind of dude, but i did like to know when she expected to be back, and she got pissed at me for asking that and said "i will be home when i get home"... after an hour or 2, suddenly a voice, or a feeling within me said" she isnt with that girlfriend, she is at J his place".. i tried to ignore it at first, but eventually i gave in and drove to J his house, and indeed... there she was.. sitting in erotic outfit and everything....got in a huge fight she could not win because she got busted, and eventually said she regretted it and would never do it again.. Months past after that and J was again at the club, and again had a suspiciously good time with L. A far-living friend invited us to stay at his and his wives place that weekend, and when we drove home from the club, she suddenly asked me to drop her off at her parents place, and if her hair smelled weird the next day, she had a new shampoo again and i dd not need to pick her up the next morning, she would come to my place.. she said it again Do not pick me up the next morning.
Right...again all alarms and red lights went off in my head, so i did what she asked, dropped her off, drove away, but i did not drive to my own place.. instead i drove around her block, and parked where i could see the front of her house, and she could barely see my car if she looked at my direction.
I waited a few minutes and then she called me, asking me if i safely made it to my place.. I lied with yes, and asked her what she was doing.. "yeah i was just about to take my dog for a walk, and when i am back i am going to bed...are you sure you are okay? why is it so quiet there" she said. " i just walked in, so did not had time to turn the tv on" I looked at her direction, and could see her standing in front of her house, but no dog in sight.. A car drove by and pulled up right next to her, and she got in... I followed the car, and led me straight to J his crappy house.
For a moment i lost my mind, but could control myself and drove back home.
At home i of course could not sleep, and planned to confront her with it. Because yes, she lied to me, yes she got in the car with J, and yes she went back to his house with him, but i still did not see anything shocking, and still had no hard evidence. Night past and morning came, and around 9 am i got in my car to "pick her up" anyway, knowing she wasnt home.. her parents were still asleep, so i called to the house, waking them up. "hi i am standing in front of your door to pick up L, but nobody answered the door" Her mom: "what are you talking about? she told us she was with you and you picked her up last night" "well, clearly it was not me, but i think i know where she is, i'll let you know when i find her" (because me standing there in front of her house with her daughter apparently missing got her worried). So i drove to J his place, parked in front of his house, and called L... and called again... and again.. and kept calling her until finally she answered.. "yes... what is it?" "Hey babe! Did you sleep well, i figured it would be much more convenient if i just picked you up right away because you didnt tell me what time you would be at my place :-) are you coming"? "what?" "are you coming, or did you cum a bit too much last night" "WTF did you say?" "I said, are you FUCKING COME outside or not?" "i told you not to p... " "look out the window, right FUCKING NOW. are you looking?" "yeah just a se . i need t,.." "what? you need to what? go downstairs? slide off J his dick? or do you have to dig his head out of your box?" "what?" "JUST LOOK OUT THE GODDAMN WINDOW" I saw a curtain slide to the side... " oh no.... fuccccckkkkkkk" she whispered... ... and that is how i found out..
