I am turning 40 this year, and sex in my marriage was bellow par. We married young, 17 years ago, and he was my fifth lover (told him he was third), and he was the best lover I ever had, everything before him seemed like a clumsy game, regarding sex.
The peak of our sexual relationship came during my pregnancy. But, after it, my libido just died for a while. We didnt have sex for quite some time, and even when we started doing it, it wasnt the same. My looks didnt deteriorate, I even think I look better, all in all, then I did in my late 20s. Something was missing.
After a while, our sex became so rare, that one year, I remember, we had it only three times. I admit, there was a lots of my fault in this, too many times I said no, and after a while, he just stopped his advances.
At one time, I was convinced he had an affair. I started snooping around, only to find out that he did not, but I did find out that he was using a lots of porn sites. This one is one of them. So, I started stalking him online, to see what is missing.
And, oh boy, did I miss a lot. Things he lusted over made me feel like I am a novice in the realm of sex, and that he has been settling with me, ever since he met me, holding back his desires, of which, many are still off limits for me, but I decided to make an effort to light up the fire.
I started dressing up. That woke up the man in him, our sex became more frequent, and intense. Then I asked him, mid intercourse, to put it in my bum. His eyes opened up, he started to stutter, and when he did, he came after only few seconds.
The difference in our sex life is so big, that once again, he is groping me while he passes by, in the house, he sends me dirty messages, etc.
After anal, I will do more, and the best part is, he is so open now, that I feel so wanted now, that, I think I saved my marriage.
It still bugs me, that neither me or him, had the common sense, to just talk, it would have spared us years of doubts and loneliness.
